What Do You Think?

Happy Monday! Our eyes are tired, but our hearts are overflowing after a weekend full of much-needed time with family, friends and a great day at church yesterday. We also stepped outside of our norm and photographed some branding photos for two very talented young ladies. We’ll tell you all about them soon!

Have you and your fiancé or spouse ever been in a situation where you were asked a question, and you both knew that you really should talk about it in private before answering? How did you handle it? Did one of you go ahead and make the executive decision on the spot? Did you awkwardly look at each other, wondering what you should say, and then cautiously half-way answer? If you’ve never been caught in this conundrum, just wait! Your time is coming!

We both grew up in homes where our parents were very adamant about us never saying “yes” to something without asking them first. When we were kids, we very always wanting to have sleepovers and spend time with our friends. But we knew there would be consequences if we didn’t ask our parents in private first. Although your relationship with your fiancé or spouse is not equivalent to that of you and your parents, the same concept applies here. Big decisions need to happen together. As kids, if we disobeyed and made plans with a friend without asking first, the consequence was a verbal scolding or maybe grounding. As an adult, the consequence is devaluing your spouse. Ouch. Raise your hand if you’re okay with making the one you love feel like they don’t matter to you. If you raised your hand, we know some awesome counselors. Just kidding! Sort of.

The longer you are together, the more you will learn about what makes each other feel valued and devalued. Every couple is different and not all “decisions” are the same. Simple decisions to one couple are big decisions to another. It’s up to you two to figure out where you stand. This would be a great idea to have a dinner-time conversation about tonight! “What decisions do you feel like we need to make together in private?” Financial decisions are a (hopefully) given, but you’d be surprised what else can come up that makes the tension grow.

We hope you have a fabulous Monday!